Things that frustrate me
When my cheese curds are no longer squeaky.
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Wed, April 6th 2011
Wed, April 6th 2011
One of my favorite blogs…OMG, I really am a cat lady.
why my teeth are gonna rot out of my head
Wed, April 6th 2011
This dog feels pretty close to how I’m gonna feel in two months. I can’t wait!
Tue, April 5th 2011
Honey Apple Chicken and a spinach salad with grape tomatoes and bleu cheese. I’m getting really into cooking lately and am hoping to post more photos of my creations. This Saturday I will take on the British staple, Crumpets!
Tue, April 5th 2011
From kissingunderspiderwebs:
“The topic my readers most want me to address is something calledmen’s rights. (See previous post.) This is a surprisingly good topic. It’s dangerous. It’s relevant. It isn’t overdone. And apparently you care.
Let’s start with the laundry list.
According to my readers, examples of unfair treatment of men include many elements of the legal system, the military draft in some cases, the lower life expectancies of men, the higher suicide rates for men, circumcision, and the growing number of government agencies that are primarily for women.
You might add to this list the entire area of manners. We take for granted that men should hold doors for women, and women should be served first in restaurants. Can you even imagine that situation in reverse?
Generally speaking, society discourages male behavior whereas female behavior is celebrated. Exceptions are the fields of sports, humor, and war. Men are allowed to do what they want in those areas.
Add to our list of inequities the fact that women have overtaken men in college attendance. If the situation were reversed it would be considered a national emergency.
How about the higher rates for car insurance that young men pay compared to young women? Statistics support this inequity, but I don’t think anyone believes the situation would be legal if women were charged more for car insurance, no matter what the statistics said.
Women will counter with their own list of wrongs, starting with the well-known statistic that women earn only 80 cents on the dollar, on average, compared to what men earn for the same jobs.My readers will argue that if any two groups of people act differently, on average, one group is likely to get better results. On average, men negotiate pay differently and approach risk differently than women.
Women will point out that few females are in top management jobs. Men will argue that if you ask a sample group of young men and young women if they would be willing to take the personal sacrifices needed to someday achieve such power, men are far more likely to say yes. In my personal non-scientific polling, men are about ten times more likely than women to trade family time for the highest level of career success.
Now I would like to speak directly to my male readers who feel unjustly treated by the widespread suppression of men’s rights:
Get over it, you bunch of pussies.
The reality is that women are treated differently by society for exactly the same reason that children and the mentally handicapped are treated differently. It’s just easier this way for everyone. You don’t argue with a four-year old about why he shouldn’t eat candy for dinner. You don’t punch a mentally handicapped guy even if he punches you first. And you don’t argue when a women tells you she’s only making 80 cents to your dollar. It’s the path of least resistance. You save your energy for more important battles.
How many times do we men suppress our natural instincts for sex and aggression just to get something better in the long run? It’s called a strategy. Sometimes you sacrifice a pawn to nail the queen. If you’re still crying about your pawn when you’re having your way with the queen, there’s something wrong with you and it isn’t men’s rights.
Fairness is an illusion. It’s unobtainable in the real world. I’m happy that I can open jars with my bare hands. I like being able to lift heavy objects. And I don’t mind that women get served first in restaurants because I don’t like staring at food that I can’t yet eat.
If you’re feeling unfairly treated because women outlive men, try visiting an Assisted Living facility and see how delighted the old ladies are about the extra ten years of pushing the walker around. It makes dying look like a bargain.
I don’t like the fact that the legal system treats men more harshly than women. But part of being male is the automatic feeling of team. If someone on the team screws up, we all take the hit. Don’t kid yourself that men haven’t earned some harsh treatment from the legal system. On the plus side, if I’m trapped in a burning car someday, a man will be the one pulling me out. That’s the team I want to be on.
I realize I might take some heat for lumping women, children and the mentally handicapped in the same group. So I want to be perfectly clear. I’m not saying women are similar to either group. I’m saying that a man’s best strategy for dealing with each group is disturbingly similar. If he’s smart, he takes the path of least resistance most of the time, which involves considering the emotional realities of other people. A man only digs in for a good fight on the few issues that matter to him, and for which he has some chance of winning. This is a strategy that men are uniquely suited for because, on average, we genuinely don’t care about 90% of what is happening around us.”
Wow. This is absolutely awful. I never was a big fan of Dilbert, but I think Scott Adams is pretty funny and I read his blog. The fact that he posted this and then deleted it when he started getting heat is outrageous. What an asshole.
(Source: dilbert.com, via mr-owls)
Fri, March 25th 2011
Mon, March 21st 2011
annieletsnotwait asked: Hi. I've came across your page while searching for Huxley on Tumblr. Just wanted to say that I love the names of your cats and they look exactly like mine. Also, sorry for what happened. I know I could just press the like button, but it was a sad post and like it didn't seem right.
We always name our pets after literary figures :). Thanks for your post. It made my day.
Mon, January 10th 2011
I received a response letter in the mail from Senator Orrin Hatch yesterday. To say the least it was completely lack luster. However, Senator Hatch did say he would wait until the final report from the Pentagon on Don’t Ask Don’t Tell before making a decision. I guess that’s not exactly a no.
I will scan the letter and post it here tomorrow.
-Dana
Senator Orrin Hatch DADT Don don't ask don't tell letter Letters
Tue, November 23rd 2010
Today I emailed my state senators to ask them to help repeal Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. As a military wife, I believe it is imperative that this law is removed. I’ve included the text of my email below.
Dear Senator Hatch,
My name is Dana Igo and I am a 22 year old military wife. I live with my husband in Salt Lake City and have been a resident of Utah all of my life.
I am emailing you to ask that you please help repeal Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. I find that this law is not constitutional and as someone that works to uphold the constitution, I hope you will agree.
DADT violates the first and fifth amendment rights of gays and lesbians. As citizens of the United States of America they are guaranteed the rights to free speech, open association and right to due process. By discharging outed homosexuals based on what they do in the privacy of their own homes, the United States military is revoking these rights.
Please understand that this is not a matter of personal belief. Regardless of your moral values, it should be clear that the sexual orientation of a person does not determine whether or not they can perform a job. Nor, should it interfere with a person’s constitutional rights. This is a civil rights issue, not a moral one.
As the wife of an enlisted soldier and a voting constituent of Utah, I ask that you please consider the needs of our military forces, both straight and gay. DADT promotes dishonesty in a service that permits none. DADT shames hard working soldiers. DADT strips our military of necessary manpower. DADT hurts everyone involved.
Vote to repeal Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and help restore honor to our military.
Sincerely,
Dana Igo
Don't Ask Don't Tell DADT Military Gay Rights Civil Rights Orrin Hatch Bob Bennett Democracy Letters
Tue, November 16th 2010